Know Your Strengths

Bullying, by nature, is a negative subject. While the bad outcomes play a significant role in the overall discussion, we must give adequate attention to the fact that bullying can have positive effects too. Yes, it can break us, but it can also build us. Bullying made me stronger, and I am thankful I can share my strengths with you through my blog and book. I hope my blessings serve as a platform for you to discover and grow your God-given talents. Your strengths matter! Focusing on them provides you with purpose. When you understand your strengths, bullying and meanness simply don’t affect you the same way. Maybe you don’t yet believe you possess unique qualities. Maybe you aren’t quite sure what your strengths are. Or, perhaps you have an idea but could benefit from taking inventory and digging deeper. Let’s get crystal-clear on just how strong you are.

To help you do so, I recommend a few tools. Start with the Bible. It’s our number-one reminder of strength. Find reassurance by turning to “strength” in its index, and look up the verses. Another tool is Tom Rath’s StrengthsFinder 2.0. You will need to obtain a new copy, as it contains an individualized test code. This book brought me clarity and helped me focus on developing my strengths rather than my weaknesses.

My top five strengths according to StrengthsFinder 2.0 are spot-on. No one can take them away from me except me. Here they are:

1. Achiever

I have a fire burning inside of me and a constant need for achievement. Every single day, I must achieve something tangible whether it’s checking off items from my chore lists or making time to exercise.

2. Belief

This theme supports my core values and gives my life meaning. It provides me direction and allows me to set priorities. It’s what leads me to be consistent and dependable.

3. Adaptability 

While I do not like sudden requests or unforeseen detours, I expect them. I tend to live in the moment. I do not see the future as a fixed destination, but I understand how the choices I make right now effect the future. Therefore, I’m flexible.

4. Responsibility 

I take psychological ownership for my commitments and feel emotionally bound to follow through to completion.

5. Relator 

Relationships are my most frustrating challenge yet one of my greatest desires. Despite the times I’ve found difficulty in relating to others, turns out, I’m good at it. It’s important that I invest time and energy into developing my relationships. I’m comfortable with intimacy and understand that kind of closeness implies risk—the risk that my relationships will fail like the friendships of my adolescence. However, I am willing to accept the risk to gain genuine relationships. I am usually pulled toward people I already know, although I do not shy away from meeting new people.

Altogether, these five strengths describe me fittingly. Of course, there is much more to me, but these themes help provide insight into what makes me tick. When I understand myself better, I can serve others better, and so can you.

Now that you know more about me, what are your strengths? If you aren’t sure, spend time considering what you like about yourself, what you’re good at, and what activities you enjoy. After you’ve discovered your strengths, or if you know your StrengthsFinders top five, share them here. Let’s get to know each other and use our blessings as unified power.

Be Blessed by Bullying

Forever

You might wonder why I’m so confident you can discover blessings in bullying. I don’t know you and may never know your story or pain. However, there is someone who does—Jesus, King of the outcasts. If I did not know him, I doubt I would be writing this post. He saved my life, comforted and friended me, and filled me with the purpose of serving others. He is “my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him” (Psalm 28:7). He is the answer to all problems. He is for you as much as he is for me. He is for anyone with a desire for healing who wants to make sense of their experience and the world. He was mocked, outcast, betrayed, and tortured so you could know him intimately and be saved by him. I encourage you to present your story and life to him and receive the promises of acceptance, forgiveness, assurance, and eternal life. (Romans 10:9; John 6:37-40, 16:24). God will heal your broken heart, bind up your wounds, and provide you peace that surpasses understanding (Psalm 147:3; Philippians 4:7). When the joy of the Lord becomes your strength (Nehemiah 8:10), your story becomes your blessing.

Welcome

Welcome to Blessed by Bullying. Like so many of you, I have a story. It has transformed me into the resilient person I am today. You can read more about it here. I invite you to follow me as I write my memoir, Blessed by Bullying.

You too can be blessed by bullying. It is my prayer for you to be lifted up here by the saving grace of Jesus. He understands. He cares. He loves you. He has “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11). You are significant, and you deserve to feel loved and embraced. I hope this is a place of value to you, where you feel supported and challenged to grow your perspectives and nurture your strengths.