Who You See in the Mirror




This is the mirror in my fitness training studio. I use it to instruct and improve peoples’ form. Eighty percent of training clients are women so you can imagine how that usually goes. Rarely do they look in the mirror and willingly comply. Almost always they grumble, “I hate looking at myself in the mirror,” and “I hate this mirror.” Some even refuse to look. They would rather risk injury than face the truth, adjust, and perform the movement correctly.

It goes deeper than lunges. I get it. When I look in the mirror, I can criticize myself with the best of you. Recently, I assured two people, on separate occasions, that I look hideous in patterned leggings. “Oh, you could wear anything!” they said. Um no. If only they saw what I had in that dressing room mirror. Eek.

We are our own worst critics, and we all have our reasons. Often, those ideas stem from insecurity, comparison, or something someone said. Like when I posted a before-and-after photo that documented my body fat loss. A woman dissed me for not being secure enough to accept myself as I was in my before picture and for having man arms in my after picture. It ticked me off at the moment. Before and after, I felt secure enough to share my results in hopes of encouraging others, but she didn’t know that and presented no desire to understand. Now, when I look in the mirror, I occasionally have to swat down the thought of “man arms” and I remind myself that at 5’2″ 125 pounds, I’m a far cry from a man. I’m exactly who God made me.

Actually, I like to look at myself in the mirror most of the time. It has much less to do with appearance and more to do with allowing myself to see myself created in the image of God. Working out is spiritual. Often, I lift reps I didn’t think I was capable of lifting, I run extra laps when I’d rather stop, I feel lighter and stronger, and I know exactly why. My strength, power, energy and focus come from the Lord, not from my own effort. When I accomplish hard work, I look into the mirror, and I see His glory. I see His Spirit dwelling within me. It’s why I like my arms and I will shamelessly flex my biceps. Proverbs 31:17 says, “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.” I like my sweaty glow, my makeup-less, sometimes pale, pimply face because “those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame” (Psalm 34:5). I like who I see in the mirror because my reflection represents the Creator who molds me into my beautiful, confident, unique self.

We are all different, but we are all made in his image and likeness (Genesis 1:27). We should embrace that to the fullest. You can change who you see in the mirror when you start seeing God within you.




6 thoughts on “Who You See in the Mirror

  1. ncgirl219 says:

    This is so, so good Tami! I love your perspective! And when we focus on what The Word says about us and our identity in Christ, all the other stuff becomes distractions! Distractions is the enemy of consistency! My new mantra “I will not be distracted by the distractions!” We are beautifully and perfect made, and when we stray from that truth I feel like God has His head in His hands! 🤦🏻‍♀️

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    • Tami Smith says:

      Absolutely KJ. It’s so easy to become distracted by so many things in this world. I just saw a quote the other day that said, “If the devil can’t make you bad, he will make you busy.” And that goes for making us busy thinking about the wrong kind of stuff too!


  2. reba422 says:

    I can’t tell you how much this message means to me and to many women I know. Keep being you because that’s what makes you beautiful. You’re doing the hardest and most rewarding work. Becky

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  3. urb0002 says:

    Tammy thank you so much for posting this! There are so many personal scenarios and instances that I could share from my life growing up. No exaggeration from the age of eight all the way through probably 22 when people were very cruel, hurtful and malicious about my appearance. It could stem from facial features and me needing reconstructive surgery or the fact that I was skinny growing up so people thought that I had an eating disorder even though I was naturally thin. I was involved in many extracurricular activities but was just fan and people used their insecurity to drag me down degrade who I was as a person. Words can cut very very deep and I am blessed that I have a strong personality and have rose above the negativity. I am grateful that there are people like you who build others up encourage others to see everyone as beautiful and in gods image. I know that God made me special and that I am beautiful. It’s amazing how you can look back and wonder if I only knew then and was strong enough then maybe things would be different. But I know that life is a process and a journey and that God has been there all along lifting me up. Thank you for sharing your message. You are such a positive light and source of strength and support. I love you girl!

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    • Tami Smith says:

      You’re welcome friend. ❤ I'm glad it lifts you up. And I'm so glad you know how valuable your life and spirit are. Every life deserves love. And what victory that we have God's love! Life isn't easy, but when we see life through Him, we can better navigate it with strength. Keep up the good fight.


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